Day 134 - A Year to Clear - Station Break

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Photo by Eunice Stahl on Unsplash

Photo by Eunice Stahl on Unsplash

Lesson 134: Station Break

“Learning to pay attention to negative self-talk and affirm the positive — I call it a station break for the opposing point of view — is a vital way to become more mindful and to master your thoughts before they master you.”
— Joan Borysenko

New week equals a new theme of “Changing the Channel”. Based on the quote above, this is all about reprogramming ourselves from negative mindsets that can bog us down and turning it into something positive. If we can manage the negative thoughts with the use of language, then we can be more mindful of the words we choose towards ourselves and others. If we can truly take control of this, I think we can lead more uplifting lives. I know I work on this all the time. I find it’s especially hard sometimes when you’re so caught up in a situation with  pure emotion, it’s hard to navigate yourself out of the negative mindset. I think this is where mindfulness is key. I am in no way a master of this yet, but I’m human and sometimes emotions get the best of me. I do however, recognise that it’s something I need to work on. I am looking forward to this week’s lessons.

Day 132 - A Year to Clear - Perception

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Lesson 132: Perception

As we go onto our spiritual paths, there is a realisation of getting back to our “true” selves. As we go about life we tend to put filters on to ourselves – that we are unworthy, that we don’t deserve things, that we are unloved…. It really can go on and on. If we work together as a collective, we can raise our vibration to match those who are awakened, and that instigates a notion within ourselves that we are loved, we worthy, we can do a lot to help this world….

Today is about releasing a filter we have on ourselves. To break down those perceptions we have on our self and to complete this sentence:

  • One way that I think that my clearing is changing the way I see myself and the world is______

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I can safely say I have put way too much pressure on myself. I think the filters I have created on myself, are definitely because I have compared myself to others, and that of the mental and verbal abuse I’ve copped along the way. I think we really can be our own worst enemies. If someone makes a comment towards us that makes us feel bad about ourselves, we can sometimes start to believe it. If someone can view you in a certain light and make a bad comment about you, it must be true right? And, that can snowball us into thinking “what do others think of me?”. It’s such a negative cycle!

I think the biggest thing I’ve done for myself is to stop caring about what others think of me. It took some time to actually look at myself in the mirror and say things like “you are beautiful” “you are amazing” “you look awesome”. If you keep saying it, one day it will stick. It’s all about language, I find. Instead of saying “I can’t do this” we can approach situations with “okay this may be challenging but I can get through it”. This takes so much practise and if you keep at it, you start to actually believe your own words. I’m not saying this happens overnight. We sometimes have to revisit the painful memories of why someone said something hurtful and tackle through it, in order to remove those filters on ourselves. I sometimes lapse though can be quick to think “why am I thinking like this?” and steer my thought process into a more positive outlook on myself.

To finish the sentence above:

  • One way that I think that my clearing is changing the way I see myself and the world is through opening myself to self-compassion.