Day 20 - A Year to Clear - Wearing or Weary-ing?

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Lesson 20: Wearing or Weary-ing?

Today I am to reflect on clothes that don’t fit or feel good anymore. Basically this is the stuck energy we keep that clutters our lives. I am to release one thing today that is not part of my lighter self. The problem is, I only just recently did this on Wednesday night. I had 6 full garbage bags of clothes and shoes that I placed downstairs for charity collection. On top of this, I gave a bag of jewellery to my friends daughter. I do not want to release anything more as I have already gone through my clothes and shoes and got it down to a point that is manageable. The idea for me now is that I want to live a minimalist life and wear down those clothes until they are not useable anymore. There may come a time when I realise that I still not have worn a lot of those clothes, but for now, I have tried hard to focus on what I do wear for work and what I wear regularly. I haven’t bought clothes or shoes in over 6 months. I think that’s another achievement I have.

The question that got asked was: “Do you wear your clothes or do they wear you (out)?” Personally, I feel like I am wearing my current set of decluttered clothes. We shouldn’t keep clothes around that make us not feel 100%. We shouldn’t keep onto things that do not fit, clothes we’ve never worn or if we just don’t simply love them. Right now, I feel like I love the set of clothes I have. Me bringing those garbage bags down for charity was my form of release. I don’t feel like I need to do a release today as I have achieved a more lighter self.

Day 20 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - True tantra is possible...

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Photo by Helena Lopes on Unsplash

Photo by Helena Lopes on Unsplash

Lesson 20: True tantra is possible...

“Lesson 20: True tantra is about connection, not sexuality or romance.True tantra is possible whether a relationship is long or short, sanctioned or unsanctioned, proper or improper. The karmic crossing is what determines tantra; not society. ”
— Sara Wiseman

I am to think about my true tantra connections and what change or transformation that has brought about. Spending time last night with my soul sister Joanna, we were talking about how we changed each other’s lives. It’s always a case of maybe not expressing it enough or showing it, but you never know how much you can inspire someone, from simple words or actions you take. Joanna always inspires me with words along the way which actually helps me take on better perspective and understanding. I remember this one time I was angry at my mother for something she had said, and Jo responded with something along the lines of “well you’ve got to remember your mum is human too, has feelings just like you and makes mistakes”. Something I didn’t really consider because we’re so quick to judge our parents and resent them for stupid shit. Those words really resonated with me and changed the way I maintained my relationship with my mum. A lot more understanding was gained and I didn’t hold my mother in the light of how she should act as a parent. My mum is her own person with her own morals, values and feelings and even though I may not agree with them, I have to remember that she is like any other person in this world, where we still need to hold respect and remember they have the right to think and feel however they want.

I think all my friendships are true tantra. If true tantra is what has transformed me, then I have to reference all the people who have changed me from my previous blog post on Day 10: Karmic crossings are always strong... Along the way those people have opened my eyes to something more. Most of those people live in Melbourne and made impact after I had moved here during my life changing event. Although I am not friends with some of those people, every one of them came into my life to teach me important life lessons. The only person I hadn’t listed on there is my ex boyfriend. I did have a tantra connection that taught me a lot of the person I didn’t want to be under someone’s control, and through the good times and the bad, I did value our time together and learned a lot about myself in the process. Without that major romance in my life, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I needed that adversity to grow.

I couldn’t imagine not having tantric connections. I think everyone has value of teaching you something even if they aren’t to remain in your life forever. I guess that’s the beauty of connection, sometimes they are there forever once created, sometimes they are just there to serve a purpose before you move forward.