Day 20 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - True tantra is possible...

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Lesson 20: True tantra is possible...

“Lesson 20: True tantra is about connection, not sexuality or romance.True tantra is possible whether a relationship is long or short, sanctioned or unsanctioned, proper or improper. The karmic crossing is what determines tantra; not society. ”

— Sara Wiseman

I am to think about my true tantra connections and what change or transformation that has brought about. Spending time last night with my soul sister Joanna, we were talking about how we changed each other’s lives. It’s always a case of maybe not expressing it enough or showing it, but you never know how much you can inspire someone, from simple words or actions you take. Joanna always inspires me with words along the way which actually helps me take on better perspective and understanding. I remember this one time I was angry at my mother for something she had said, and Jo responded with something along the lines of “well you’ve got to remember your mum is human too, has feelings just like you and makes mistakes”. Something I didn’t really consider because we’re so quick to judge our parents and resent them for stupid shit. Those words really resonated with me and changed the way I maintained my relationship with my mum. A lot more understanding was gained and I didn’t hold my mother in the light of how she should act as a parent. My mum is her own person with her own morals, values and feelings and even though I may not agree with them, I have to remember that she is like any other person in this world, where we still need to hold respect and remember they have the right to think and feel however they want.

I think all my friendships are true tantra. If true tantra is what has transformed me, then I have to reference all the people who have changed me from my previous blog post on Day 10: Karmic crossings are always strong... Along the way those people have opened my eyes to something more. Most of those people live in Melbourne and made impact after I had moved here during my life changing event. Although I am not friends with some of those people, every one of them came into my life to teach me important life lessons. The only person I hadn’t listed on there is my ex boyfriend. I did have a tantra connection that taught me a lot of the person I didn’t want to be under someone’s control, and through the good times and the bad, I did value our time together and learned a lot about myself in the process. Without that major romance in my life, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I needed that adversity to grow.

I couldn’t imagine not having tantric connections. I think everyone has value of teaching you something even if they aren’t to remain in your life forever. I guess that’s the beauty of connection, sometimes they are there forever once created, sometimes they are just there to serve a purpose before you move forward.

Day 10 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - Strong Karmic Lessons

Lesson 10: Karmic crossings are always strong...

“Lesson 10: Karmic crossings are always strong. They may be difficult, they may be memorable, there is always a sense of attraction or repulsion that cannot be resisted. They may be long lasting or short and immensely intense, depending on how fast you learn the lesson in this crossing.

Exercise: What relationships are you working on most today? This week? What relationships do you avoid working on? What relationships in your life have a sense of destiny, as if the karmic crossing was decided a long time ago, or has existed in many lifetimes before? Write down the names of the people in your life who come to mind, as important karmic crossings. Contemplate these people, and your relationship with each of them.”

— Sara Wiseman

I can’t say that I am working on any relationships with others at the moment. I don’t feel like any relationship with another person needs further insight and love. The only relationship I am working on is the one I would probably the neglect the most, and that’s the one I have with myself. I feel like this is a constant journey as I’m always learning and that’s a good thing.

If I had to say what relationship has a sense of destiny, I’d say anyone that I’ve met along the way. I feel everyone has something to learn from. I mean, everyone I’ve met in Melbourne after moving here 3 years ago, in my opinion have some sense of destiny. I came to Melbourne after a break up, felt lost, didn’t know how to deal with myself and was a bit out of control. I think all the friends I established and the people I surround myself with are there for me for a reason. I don’t have a partner at present so can’t comment in that capacity but definitely all my friends hold meaning.  I’d like to believe my mum has existed in many lifetimes before because I’ve always felt she is a good person with a lot of understanding – which is what most people want in their life.

I will briefly summarise all the people who I believe are important karmic crossings. The ones that really stood out and gave me a message verbally or unintentionally, or reminded me what I already know. Some of these people, I may not be friends with any longer or haven’t seen in awhile.
 

• Mum – Has always taught me to have faith and see the good in people. Don’t make promises, promises are meant to be broken.
• Joanna (met through my ex-boyfriend) – Reminds me to be the change I want to see in the world.
• Nasiha (met on an app Anchor though have never met in Real Life) – From the ashes we can rise and overcome anything. Self-care is most important also.
• Debra (met on my Thailand trip)– Take the time to listen and relate, rather than judge.
• Ben (met at work) – To always see from the other person’s perspective.
• David (met through Ben) – I am beautiful just the way I am.
• Colin (met through Ben) – You can care about others abundantly but doesn’t mean they should take advantage of you.
• Brett (met at work) – If you work hard and have patience, it’ll pay off.
• Bonny (met at work) – Saying YES and just doing can get you far.
• Hannah (met at work) – You should always do what makes you happy and live YOUR life.
• Benita (met at work) – You’re not going to like everyone in the world and they may not like you, so don’t feel bad for it.
• Marlyn (met at work) – You can be strong without being forceful.
• Amena (met at work) – Don’t give a fuck about what anyone thinks of you. Be who you want to be. Acknowledge others.
• Stephanie (met on my Thailand trip) – Always be yourself. People will love you for it.
• Janette (Medium teacher) – Forget what I know or what other people know, do what I feel is right.
• Vikkhi (Witch mentor) – What I do is in my blood. Be more open to the universe.
• Tehani (Witch mentor) – Don’t force things to happen. Let it be and be receptive to what comes.

All of these people have helped me along the way. I’m sure there are people in whom I’ve missed out but I feel like everyone I meet along the way holds value. I am constantly learning and trying to be better towards others. There is always something new you can learn that you may have never thought about before – it’s more about being receptive to it and opening yourself in order to receive.

Day 3 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - Karmic Crossings

Lesson 3: You will have many karmic crossings...

I honestly had to google karmic crossings as this a foreign concept to me. I wasn't sure if that meant you've done things that causes karma to come back to you, and in a way, it is yes. Karmic crossings focuses on the souls you've come across in your journey, whether this lifetime or another that serve a soul lesson. They can be described as soul mates, as everyone that crosses your path is a soul mate, but the level of complexity of these particular relationships is how learn in this particular life time. There are 3 karmic crossings, I learned: Neutral Karmic Crossings, Complex Karmic Crossings and Cooperative Karmic Crossings.

• Neutral Karmic Crossings are those people you interact with but don't really teach you any lessons. They don't bear much energy, cross your path but aren't in your immediate soul circle. Examples of this are acquaintances you meet through a friend, a short dating stint you had back in the day, a person you interacted briefly on the train - short and quick that you would probably never remember.
• Complex Karmic Crossings are those people you interact with that present big karma, soul lessons. They are usually so full of drama that they aren't completed in this lifetime. This usually involves abuse, anger, resentment, betrayal etc. There are larger lessons to learn that each party will learn from but it's good to let go of the unhealthy toxic relationships because you'd be resolving this in other lifetimes to come or you're dealing with this from a previous lifetime.
• Cooperative Karmic Crossings are meant to be those you seek out for life. They are deep relationships that can work through the lower and negative lessons to transform into a cooperative beautiful transcendence of love, support, kindness and patience.

So details of the Lesson Three: You will have many karmic crossings in this lifetime. Those who surround you now are familiar to you; most of them, you have known before. If you are jumping levels of consciousness in this lifetime, some karmic crossings, some relationships, may be new.

The exercise is to consider now, who is with you on your journey and what karmic lessons are you learning.

I don't want to reiterate yesterday's post fully, but I find that Joanna, Debra and Nasiha are definitely cooperative karmic crossings - those within my soul circle, transforming into their true selves and teaching me that it's okay for me to be myself, see me in my own development and I have the rawest conversations with. 

If I am thinking about outside this soul circle, I have many cooperative karmic crossings. I do have one major complex karmic crossing which is my relationship with my dad. I don't usually like to call him dad as I don't think he fathered me well, he mentally and emotionally abused me, and I cut that toxic relationship out of my life for now. When I am ready to forgive, then I will reestablish that relationship. When I think of all my cooperative karmic crossings, that would involve any person in my life at present. I have worked hard to cut negative people out of my life and when I spot toxicity, I'm quick to distance myself from it. It's not to say that I'm above it, but I would like to try and avoid it with a 10 foot pole.

When I think of friends that helped me in my life, Brett, Ben and David are friends who immediately welcomed me to Melbourne during a very tumultuous time, as I'd just broken up with my ex, moved interstate and they were the first set of friends, that I truly relied on to get me out of my funk. It wasn't necessarily to talk about my feelings, but to gain some independence, and knowing that I had the strength to stand on my own 2 feet. They are still good friends to this day.

Colin, gets a mention because even though I bonded over the Flash and Arrow (DC TV Series), this guy cares more about his friends more than he cares to admit. I feel like sometimes he stresses himself worrying about us. I met Colin through Ben and probably should have met him 5 years prior to my actual meeting with him, but I guess, he came into my life when he was supposed to. He has been there during my most darkest moments. He's fun, loving, shares my sci fi passion and has got all the time in the world for his friends- something I do cherish and sometimes forget to share myself.

Amena is a friend I met through work. Didn't know if I'd get along with her if I'm going to be honest, as when paired together, we look like the most unnatural of friendships, but I think this is why it works so well. I think I came into her life so she could express herself more, not having to be closed off all the time and she came into mine, so I can be more bold. It doesn't matter what people think, just be who you are. Fuck the haters, so to speak.

I could go on listing people but these are the people on my current journey (I would say those in my Melbourne life) that stand out for major karmic crossings. Every friend has made impact, but these are my friends who came at stand out points in my life of recent times. Whether it was tragedy, loss, hard times, transformation and transition, these friends have helped guide me whether they know it or not. I am grateful for their presence in my journey as I am all my friends and family.