Day 95 - A Year of Spirituality - Forgiveness Leads to Control

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Lesson 95: Forgiveness Leads to Control...

We continue on the passage of compassion. Again the idea that “forgiveness leads to control” is ever present. Having forgiveness rather than compassion instigates a notion that one person is better than another – according to this lesson. I don’t necessarily agree but I digress. Compassion leads to connection with other souls and we can live and breath this. By applying compassion, we unite as one and “Oneness” is the next opening of the heart. Today is about thinking about why forgiveness or lack thereof is an act of control. From there, consider compassion as an act of love and let these ideas brew in your head.

I personally am still 50/50 on forgiveness. I can see how it can be an act of control especially in those situations where people are begging for someone’s forgiveness and that person will not let go. I think in those situations, then yes it’s an act of control but like I mentioned in my previous post, I believe there are some situations where we are hurt so badly, that you can’t forgive this person just yet, but maybe in time. I think when you’re comfortable with what’s happened then you can move forward. It really takes a lot of inner peace to get to this point of applying compassion. If you’ve been wronged to the point where it impacts your life, I truly believe it takes time and you may not want to apply compassion to the other party. That’s why I think you should do it when you feel good in your heart to and that’s why I think forgiveness can go hand in hand with compassion. It really depends on the situation.

Compassion is an act of love because it takes something greater than yourself in order to give it. It’s about accepting people for all that they are and that comes along with some great inner peace. I think compassion goes a long way because it not only helps others, it can really teach you more about yourself. Compassion is for the greater good. When we deliver these acts of kindness, I think we become one. One in understanding, one in healing, one in love. I think it’s good to not forget to apply compassion to yourself and find that inner peace before offering it out for others though. It’s easy to get caught up in helping others, draining yourself and not realising you need that self-care also.

Day 54 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - No One Will Come to Fix You

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Lesson 54: No one will come to fix you...

Today’s lesson focuses on the only way to heal is by yourself. No one can really help you but they can be witness to your own “human experience”. If we can start to understand this, the sooner we will heal. I am to think about who I depend on and who depends on me. Have these relationships grown and stuck around? How would you like your relationships to be and how would you like yourself to be?

I depend on myself. This I learned when I went through my major relationship break up. There was no one that could get me through those feelings, the independence I had to take on and learning path I struggled through. I knew that there was no one to pick me back up but myself. It was a hard reality realising this – the dependency of a partner was gone and I had to get one with it. I had to learn how to live on my own, make decisions on my own and push comfort zones embracing a new city that I had moved to. I can definitely say it was a good challenge and although I didn’t know what I was doing, I’m grateful for it. Ever since then, I have realised that the best person to help you is yourself. Not that I always close myself off to assistance, but I definitely know I’m the person who knows what how to make me happy again. No one else can do this for me.

I am a good listener. I feel like I am depended on heavily. I think there is a natural attraction to me, where by people think they can get good advice. Some of these relationships have stuck and some have naturally dropped off over time. I think not all relationships need to stick around for all of time. I think some people come about to hold a purpose for that time and sometimes you outgrow each other. I don’t want to go about listing them all because I feel like it’d be a novel. Some relationships last, some just don’t, and that’s okay.

I think I know what I want out of my relationships. I know I want the same respect that I deal out. I know I don’t want to be surrounded by toxic people because they can be draining. I know I am living the best life I possibly can be and want others to do the same. I know that relationships hold different value and I wouldn’t change the relationships I currently have. If anything, as I grow to be more understanding and caring on a larger scale, I’d like to see people have more empathy towards others, and the Earth. I know this is a massive ask and people aren’t aware, and/or don’t want to know how this Earth is crying out for help, but we really need to come together as a conscious collective to heal the world. I mean, I dream big and hope one day, that all the people I encounter has the same mindset as myself.