Day 97 - A Year of Spirituality - Do You Notice How Compassion...

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Lesson 97: Do You Notice How Compassion...

True healing comes about as accepting everyone as equal. This comes about from compassion.  Today we are to look at our worst enemy from the past and see that you are both equal. If you can’t see how it you are equal, ask the Divine to show you the answer.

I actually don’t see anyone as my worst enemy. I think that’s just wasted time and emotion to have so much of that anger lingering towards someone. If I am to think of someone that wronged me, I thought of two girls who called my ugly in high school. To hold compassion for these two people is massive for me. They weren’t very nice people and I believe in karma also. When I hold compassion towards these people, I do feel that they may have projected their own insecurities onto me, as well as said and did things to appear “cool” or fit in. I think being a teenager is a challenging time for everyone so all I can do is see them in the same way I dealt with those years. I’m sure I did and said things to upset people during that time and maybe I didn’t mean them either. I do not know if any of my words may have impacted someone else as much as these girls had impacted me. I can see now that everyone has their own trials and tribulations and we try to make sense of the world the best way we know how.

Day 97 - A Year to Clear - Not Clutter

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Lesson 97: Not Clutter

“Things that make your heart sing are not clutter. If they brighten your day, make your life easier, more fun, or feel supremely good...not clutter. Nor extravagance.”

— Stephanie Bennett Vogt

Today we are to breathe into this and reflect. It is a good way of taking on a clearing practise – whatever brings you joy, keep the item and whatever doesn’t bring on this same feeling, you can potentially get rid of. I think anything that doesn’t bring you joy would be stale energy just lingering about. Whatever attachment you once had, isn’t the same anymore, so thinking about items and belongings in this way may make the clearing process easier. Our space should be a reflection of the best version of ourselves, so it should really have items and energy that lifts our hearts.

Day 96 - A Year to Clear - Adjust As Needed

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Lesson 96: Adjust As Needed

Today is about adjusting the sixty second round up routine if required. If you felt overwhelmed, try changing the type of space you’re trying to tackle or start out smaller. If you didn’t feel challenged, expand the space you’re working in or tackle more areas in one go.

I personally think I’m going well with this challenge. I am going to work on my dressing table where all my make-up resides. I have a lot of make-up that I don’t use and want to pass them onto my mate’s daughter. Apart from this, my dressing table is a mess and I need to tidy it up. As I mentioned before, I also want more plants in my space to liven it up. So far, I haven’t felt overwhelmed in a long time and just take each step as I go. There is no race really. Steady pace is all I need.

Day 96 - A Year of Spiritual Awakening - Look Into the Past

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Lesson 96: Look Into the Past...

Today is about looking into the past. Was there someone or enemy you wanted to forgive but hadn’t? Can you hold compassion for them now instead? Was there someone that had forgiven you? Can you think about them holding compassion for you instead? If we start to look at these relationships in this way, we should see our energy change.

I think when I look upon past relationships I can apply compassion now. I think the way I got there was some inner reflection and coming to the conclusions that the way I was wronged doesn’t impact my life anymore. I think what I did get rid of was all he feelings attached to what I was feeling and I sped that process up with hypnotherapy. I have mentioned before that I was doing this at my own pace and it was really taking a lot of time so I chose the route of hypnotherapy as I wanted it done quickly as I had been holding onto things for years, and we’re talking over 10-20 years.

I think giving forgiveness can be taking back a power from someone who did have a hold over you for so many years. That’s how I felt about my father and other past relationships that really broke my confidence. I still feel like forgiveness and compassion go hand in hand. I am not convinced people can just apply compassion with no forgiveness when wrongdoing has been spanning over years or decades. I don’t think it’s that simple to just apply compassion. I think it’s about retraining the brain to think differently and then gaining some inner peace before getting to a stage of just compassion only. Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s a good practise and I am fully aware of what these lessons are trying to teach, but I don’t necessarily agree wholeheartedly.

I think I have definitely changed as a person by doing these lessons. I think I apply a lot more compassion than I ever have and ever thought I would. If anything, compassion wasn’t really a consideration until this part of the course so I am growing as a person. To me, forgiveness isn’t necessarily control over another – I think it can sometimes be a necessary act to move forward, a release if you will. I think if people held compassion towards me, then that’s a nice thought. I don’t do much these day to hurt others as I try to lead by example of the caring nature I want in myself and others, so if I have wronged someone in the past, I hope they can apply compassion towards me and forgive me if they need. I don’t see myself or anyone else holding power as I am trying to lead my life with pure love. I think all in all, I am expanding as a person in general and compassion was going to come about on my journey as part of my own development.

Day 95 - A Year of Spirituality - Forgiveness Leads to Control

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Lesson 95: Forgiveness Leads to Control...

We continue on the passage of compassion. Again the idea that “forgiveness leads to control” is ever present. Having forgiveness rather than compassion instigates a notion that one person is better than another – according to this lesson. I don’t necessarily agree but I digress. Compassion leads to connection with other souls and we can live and breath this. By applying compassion, we unite as one and “Oneness” is the next opening of the heart. Today is about thinking about why forgiveness or lack thereof is an act of control. From there, consider compassion as an act of love and let these ideas brew in your head.

I personally am still 50/50 on forgiveness. I can see how it can be an act of control especially in those situations where people are begging for someone’s forgiveness and that person will not let go. I think in those situations, then yes it’s an act of control but like I mentioned in my previous post, I believe there are some situations where we are hurt so badly, that you can’t forgive this person just yet, but maybe in time. I think when you’re comfortable with what’s happened then you can move forward. It really takes a lot of inner peace to get to this point of applying compassion. If you’ve been wronged to the point where it impacts your life, I truly believe it takes time and you may not want to apply compassion to the other party. That’s why I think you should do it when you feel good in your heart to and that’s why I think forgiveness can go hand in hand with compassion. It really depends on the situation.

Compassion is an act of love because it takes something greater than yourself in order to give it. It’s about accepting people for all that they are and that comes along with some great inner peace. I think compassion goes a long way because it not only helps others, it can really teach you more about yourself. Compassion is for the greater good. When we deliver these acts of kindness, I think we become one. One in understanding, one in healing, one in love. I think it’s good to not forget to apply compassion to yourself and find that inner peace before offering it out for others though. It’s easy to get caught up in helping others, draining yourself and not realising you need that self-care also.